Idea 6 – Ice Skating

Ice Skating is always a very popular dating idea.  There are rinks popping up all over the place and it’s the chance to try a fun outdoor activity, often with great scenery.

Many people are put off as they find it hard to do or don’t want to look stupid. This isn’t really an issue though as you’ll probably be the same position. If you keep falling over you can grab hold of your date and you’ll have something to laugh about.  If they are a better skater then they will enjoy teaching you to how to skate.  It’s only for an hour so you’ll soon improve anyway.

Do remember to warn your date to wrap up warm and have somewhere to go to after – perhaps with a log fire.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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We’d had some great feedback recently:

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“My experience was good. I met Mr Right soon after subscribing onto the site. it’s well laid out and the support provided by yourselves is very prompt.” JG

” Standout website compared to the other Asian Dating Sites” MD

“This site worked for me because I kept on trying and found that someone special” JP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : its worked thank you x” SK

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Thank you!” PS

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : She’s lovely. “ES

“Brilliant service” DP

“I met the perfect match thanks to you!!” AP

“I met someone. Great website” AG

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Today I’m bringing back my very popular Dating Advice as I’ve had a question from a member:

“Hi James, I wonder if you can answer this problem for me as it’s really confusing me.  I’m getting frustrated because I only seem to get contacted by men who are nothing like I’m looking for. They are either too old, too far away or generally not suitable.  How can I stop this and get the good ones to get in touch?  M”

Hey M,

Thanks for your message.  I completely understand what you mean.  However, it’s not working simply because your strategy is wrong. These men won’t always know if you are a good match or not until you’ve spoken, so they are just taking their chances.  You can’t really blame them, although they should really pay more attention and consider if you might really be compatible or not.

The thing is, it doesn’t really matter who contacts you.  Instead, it’s all about you being proactive and reaching out to the men that you are interested in instead.  That way you are in control and not sat around waiting for the “online dating lottery” to get your numbers up.

It’s a bit like applying for a job. If you wanted to get the position of your dreams, you’d write a great CV and make sure it went out to the right companies.  You wouldn’t just see which random companies decide to contact you and hope for the best.

I’d suggest you email at least five men a day. It may sound a lot but once you start to get replies back then you can cut down. Be open minded and you never know what might happen.

Finally, it would be best to make sure you fill your online dating profile in as much as possible.  Don’t be negative and talk about what you don’t want in a partner, but focus on the things that yuo really do.  That way someone reading it can make a better decision about whether they really should contact you or not.

Do you have own dating dilemma or relationship issue that you’d like some help with?  I’m a leading Dating Coach and I work with the Asian Single Solution to make sure their members are successful in love.  Email me at [email protected] and I’ll answer some of the best ones here in this blog..anonymously of course!

Happy dating,
James Preece

The Dating Guru

Thank you to everyone who came to our big 14th Birthday Party!

Our event was a complete sell out and from all accounts lots of fun and matches were made.  We pulled out all the stops for the event and had a magician, chocolate fountain, DJ and for the first time ever – casino tables.
We don’t run our events for profit but as a showcase for the website, so we usually spend all the money made on making them the best we can.  So if you liked anything in particular please do add a comment and let us know.  That way we know to include it next time.

Thanks again for celebrating with us and we are looking forward to planning the next exciting events.  Next year will be the big 15 so we’ll be coming up with something even more special for you to enjoy.

Happy dating,

James, Paul, Meera and the team

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Rule Two

James Preece is our Events Manager and the UK’s leading Date Coach. Here is his second most important dating tip.

Two: Always Be Ready For Love

Love doesn’t just happen on dating sites. Cupid’s arrow can hit you any time, any place and anywhere.

You walk by thousands of people every single day and interact with new ones all the time. Perhaps it’s in the supermarket, on the train, at the gym or even at work. You see them look at you and you have the opportunity to start a conversation.  It’s now or never – you have to make a great impression and you have to do make it now.

But sadly, so many people blow this chance before it’s even begun!  Why?  Because they just weren’t ready.  They didn’t bother shaving that day or they chose to wear a baggy jumper rather than that summery dress they were thinking about.  They failed before they even left the house.  To make matters worse, they knew they didn’t look their best so they didn’t feel confident enough to go up and say hello anyway.

The truth is that you have to be ready for love at all times.  Pick your best outfit that you feel most attractive and confident in.  That way, you’ll naturally feel more attractive and confident in your own life. 

Oh and please remember to smile too and give lots of eye contact.  That’s the biggest indication other people will that that you are a happy, open minded person who would appreciate someone saying hello to them.  If you smile then they will know you are up for a conversation and want to get to know you.

Happy dating!

James

I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference.  Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!

If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE

Our very own James Preece is one of the UK’s very best Dating Coaches.  He has put together some of THE most important Dating Tips for you.

Hi there! I’ve been helping singles find love for the last decade and today I’m going to tell you all about my first Golden Rule:

One: Work Out What You Want

This might sound obvious but I never cease to be amazed how many people forget to even consider this.  If you don’t know who are you looking for then you’re never going to know when you find them.

Let’s suppose you want to get a new job. Would you apply for every single vacancy no matter what is was for  and attend every interview you were offered?  Of course you wouldn’t.  That would just be a colossal waste of time and you’d never find a position that you were happy with.

Dating is exactly the same.  Before you begin, you have to work out what is important to you.  Who exactly is it that you are looking for and what do you want from them.  If you want to find a husband or wife you need to be clear about your goal right from the start.

So have a good think now about what the person you’d like end up with might be like.  Consider their qualities, lifestyle and personality. Is there anything especially important such as religion, smoking habits or location?  If so, keep these in mind along the way. 

I’m not suggesting that you should ever stop being open minded about what might happen. I’m just saying that you should always have something in mind to aim for.  

After all, what you think you want and what you really need can often be completely different things.  The fun comes with the adventure ahead and trying new possibilities and meeting new people

Happy dating!

I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference.  Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!

If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE

There’s no such thing as a bad date as at the very least you’ll have a good story to tell.

Funny Dating Stories

As a Dating Coach I think it’s very import that singles remember this.  Not every date is going to go perfectly, but you should learn a little from each one.  You are very fortunate that you are able to go and meet new people and try new activities and experiences. The secret is to make sure you go into each one with a positive, open minded attitude.

Things won’t always go the way you expect them to but quite often that’s when the most long lasting connections are made.  Nobody is perfect and if you are able to laugh at yourself you’ll be a much better catch!

I stopped going on dates a long time ago, but my job is making sure singles have successful ones.  I did a lot of dating when I was single and I use anecdotes to teach people how to have better dates. So I’ve put together a short story collection based on real dates that I had back in my single days. I’ve done this for your amusement and to show you even experts have odd experiences. In the end I met the “one” which just goes to show you have to keep at it.

You can download it HERE

I’m sure you’ll all have your own bizarre, strange or hilarious story then you love to tell people.
If you do have one, then please email it over to [email protected]

We’ll include the funniest ones (anonymously of course) here in the blog.  As an extra incentive we’ll be offering a lovely prize to the very best ones too

So please, don’t keep them to yourself.  We’d love to hear them and I know our readers and members would too.

Happy dating!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

This week we bring you another dating dilemma solved by our resident dating expert.

“Dear James.  Please can you help?   I met a girl on the site and I thought things were going really well. In fact, we recently moved in together. I was looking forward to the future but she just told me she wants a relationship break.  I’m stunned and have had to move out to give her space.  What can I do to win her back?  AJ”

Hi AJ,

Many thanks for your message.  I’m sorry to hear things haven’t gone quite to plan.  You didn’t tell me the exact reasons why you were unhappy, but this is something you’ll need to discuss with her.

The most common reasons this happens is if you are spending TOO MUCH time together.  If you do, every little thing will get on your nerves and you’ll start to irritate each other.  Little things like not doing the washing up or leaving clothes on the floor can start arguments. Or there could of course be some other bigger issue that needs dealing with.

Relationship breaks CAN work as they give you the chance to see what life would be like without each other.  If you were close then she’ll soon realise things are much better if you are around.

What you need to do is give her the space she wants, but make it clear you love her and are not giving up.  Set a time to meet up and discuss things soon.  If she needs a little longer that’s fine but you don’t want to have to wait forever.  Tell her this and ensure you both stick to the same timetable.

Above all, listen to what she says and see if you can salvage things.  If not, you may both be happier on your own.

If you agree to get back together – and I hope you do – then you must make sure you communicate as much as possible. It’s only by making each other feel happy and special that you grow your relationship.  This means plenty of time doing things outside your normal routine as well as giving each other space to see friends and family.

Hope that helps,

James

If you have your own dating problem or issue, drop us email to info@asiansinglesolution with the subject line ” Dating Help.”   We’ll get our dating expert to answer the best ones here in the blog.

Happy dating!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com